1) It saddens me that sex and romance have become automatically made equal in meaning with love. How many truly loving relationships have you been in? In non-familial intimate relationships, sex and romance are two of very few ways of demonstrating that love in a meaningful way. Don’t pretend to be a scholar on the English language or a qualified therapist on human sexuality.
2) Human beings do not need sex or romantic love to survive. Actually, some might. Without sexual release and romantic love, certain people can trigger severe depression and consider ending their lives. Your failure to understand the complexity of emotion beyond the words “sex” and “love” could cause that. Further, not all people experience the same sexual desire. Asexuals, for instance, don’t generally feel any interest in sex regardless of physical attraction. Hypersexual individuals, however, are the reverse. To deprive them of release on the basis of a flawed principle is destructive to the human person.
3) Nobody expects anybody to have to feel unloved though. There are so many other types of love besides romantic love. There is family love, friendship love, Godly love, and so much more. Actually, you expect some people to feel unloved. Not everyone has a family. Not everyone has friends. Not everyone has a God. To those people, you are cutting off the one source of love that might be available to them, simply for the sake of your Church’s flawed principles. Finally, all love is Godly love. To see these as different kinds of love rather than the same love expressed differently is absolutely wrong.
4) Homosexuals aren’t called to be unloved and they aren’t called to not love, but rather they are called to love and be loved in a different, non-romantic way, that can be equally as wonderful as romantic love. Ignoring the fact that you just (mistakenly) admitted that homosexual romance is wonderful, this argument has several problems. The biggest one is this: when was the last time you personally, without the aid of a mistranslated and corrupted religious text or the leader of a congregation, heard God say, “Homosexuals aren’t called to romantic love”? It seems to me you are speaking for God where you simply can’t.
The Catholic Church understands marriage to be a vocation. As with a priestly vocation, where no one can determine that vocation for anyone else, what gives you the right to determine the quality or integrity of someone else’s marital vocation simply on the basis of their gender identification and that of their partner?
As a homosexual involved in a loving partnership of several years, who is very close to God and lives in love and faith to the best of my ability, I can confess that God has, in fact, called me to romantic love. I have felt that calling since I was a child, though it has only recently been realized. I have known since my teenage years that I was called to serve God in ministry and in marriage, though I was gay.
You can’t claim otherwise for anyone but yourself.
5) How is that cruel? It is cruel because someone who, observably, knows nothing about human sexuality or psychology, whose only goal in righting this destructive message is obedience to a Church that has more often than not failed to be obedient to God, is pretending to be some sort of authority on the matter, and in the process, risking the emotional and physical health of those unfortunate enough to take what she says to heart. The human being is a creature far too complicated to be segmented, understood, and limited by conservative religion.
What you stand for is human destruction, not love. I pray that this changes, and that you grow in wisdom to understand the damage your words can have to impressionable gay/lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, demisexual, and trans* children.
Namaste.



